Friday, July 30, 2010

the calm before the storm

Things are definitely quietening down around here. I am very mindful of the fact that this baby won't come until she knows I am good and ready for her. In an attempt to slow down I have made the following changes to our daily rhythm and routine

*less scheduled outings and meetings, more time in the mornings outside in the sun and in the late afternoons at home knitting, kneading dough from scratch, preparing meals, putting my feet up and playing with North

*more quiet moments to myself drinking tea, resting and talking with the little one, inviting her to come out and play

*little to no television in the evenings, a calming bedtime routine: hot shower, pjs, early dinner and quiet reading before early lights out

*squatting and sitting cross-legged on the floor instead of sitting on a couch or chair

*an attempt at a little more bonding and cuddling time with both of my boys

*an attempt to "let go": of any fears, anxiety, self-fulfilling prophesies or preconceived ideas I have about the baby, the birth and the aftermath

Letting Go

Sit in a cross-legged position, with a tall spine and your arms out perpendicular to your body at shoulder height (making sure to keep your shoulders relaxed)
Separate your four fingers into two groups: index and middle finger attached, and ring and pinky finger attached with a space between the two groups
Clothes your eyes, and deepen and lengthen your inhales and exhales
After 7 minutes, stretch your arms out as far as you can, flex/tighthen your whole body and then release
Repeat this once more for another 7 minute sequence

*adapted from Gurmukh's Bountiful, Beautiful, Blissful*

Did you do anything special or different in preparation for your new baby's arrival? How did you start to mentally prepare for the huge change ahead?



Kristi said...

i was hoping to see a belly photo of you. so beautiful.

Michelle said...

You look so beautiful and calm.


Sonia said...

You are looking gorgeous. Obviously pregnancy agrees with you. You've successfully put across the calmness of the post in the photo.

LJ said...

gorgeous. Such a beautiful photo. Good luck for the remaining weeks. I think I shall take on some of your ways...I need it.

LJ said...

gorgeous. Such a beautiful photo. Good luck for the remaining weeks. I think I shall take on some of your ways...I need it.

angelina said...

i had a favorite shell which i carried round and rubbed, and had with me at the birth of my second. i also lavished myself with neroli oil, which was an immensely calming aide in the birth as well. you are beautiful mama and little one growing inside,what a miracle to awe. xxxooo

Ooty said...

what an amazing photo of you!
You are so beautiful and look so clam in this image =)
Best of luck getting on track all you do wish for yourself

Mrs B said...

As others have said, you look beautiful.

I spent the last few weeks before Little B was born, being kind to myself, talking to my little bubba within as I rubbed oils into my tummy, reading, listening to music, and bonding with Mr B.

As for preparing ahead - I did the usual things like cooking extra meals (even though I knew my mum would be with us).

But mainly I spent a lot of time thinking inward and praising my body. I felt strong and tried to instil a sense of trust in my brain and body.

Sandrine said...

Wishing lots of peace, what a miracle of life to witness with every birth, child...I wish I had been so calm and at peace when it was time for me to "let go"...All the best x

cityhippyfarmgirl said...

Sounds like you are doing all the right things. Surround yourself with lots of love and family moments, this little one will feel it and will want to just be a part of it.
Warm belly rubs to you.

Lola Nova said...

It seems like a good change in rhythm for you right now. Lovely belly photo too:)
I walked, long slow walks in my neighborhood. I would say out loud what I saw, name the plants that I could and describe the colors and textures of things I passed by (the neighbors must have thought I was a crazy pregnant lady). It helped me open up my mind and body, helped me be "in tune with nature", and brought me a lot of peace knowing that I would take these walks with my child soon.
And I rocked in the rocking chair listening to my favorite music, drinking tea. I thought how this child that was coming was a person, a unique individual, of me - but completely herself. Which helped me trust that she would arrive in her own time and in her own way. Made me a lot more calm in the delivery I think.

All the best to you and yours!

Mara Brown said...

Dear Meagan
May the calm remain on your side and the storm never come!
Lots of love,
PS: Geraldine came over today, I wish I had shown her your photo!

Gina said...

You sound like you're taking just the right approach, slowing everything down. You do indeed look lovely with your full belly. I did a little bit of breathing and visualisation every day for the last few weeks before number 2, and also a fair bit of (slow, ponderous) walking.

Petit Eco KIDS said...

How beautiful and calm. Lovely! The days before the arrival of a little one are such an amazing time. Wishing you all the best for the big day! Flavia

Sarah said... calm and relaxed. all the best

Catherine said...

This is a beautiful, calm and peaceful photo. Thank you for sharing it with us. xo

MultipleMum said...

I agree that babies need to feel 'safe' to make their arrival. Your calm and relaxed approach seems to be just the thing needed for a warm welcome for bub. Sounds like you are preparing your boys for their new sibling too which is so important for acceptance and bonding. What a wise woman you are :)

manda said...

beautiful photo...maybe just being in the moment is the best we can do when faced with the unknown. enjoying your family as it is now and enjoying the last moments of having sweet baby in your tummy.
x manda

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