Friday, July 23, 2010

thank you



After posting yesterday on being completely torn about leaving North with someone he wasn't familiar with in order to go to a last minute business event with my hubby, I received the most heartfelt responses from so many of you! As the day passed and comment after supportive comment floated into my home, I felt more at peace and confident with my decision. A decision which I made basically right after writing said post:

I wouldn't and couldn't leave him under those circumstances.

If it had been a really important event, it might have been different, but my husband didn't need me there, in fact I was never an original part of the equation, just a pleasant addition to the outing. And I am heavily pregnant. And although I have been living in Australia for 4 years, have no clue about football... so, you can tell I really wasn't very enthusiastic about going in the first place.

This said, there were many comments that were helpful for "next time".

I completely and utterly agree that the easiest and best thing to do is to set up a playdate or meeting in advance with the babysitter, where I am present, so that North has the opportunity to get to know her in a secure environment. I will definitely do this in the future- thank you for this great advice.

I will also always arrange that the sitter arrive before his sleep so that he is aware that she is present and isn't startled waking up to someone else.

I do believe that babysitters can be a welcome and exciting new playmate for North and an invaluable resource when you want and need to get out for some intimate time with your partner. It's just a matter of being organized enough, and trusting of your instincts enough to be confident with your choice of childcare.

Again, I just want to say a huge thank you for all of your support and comments. I am constantly floored at the kindness and generosity from people I have never even met. It is so comforting to feel this kindred bond with so many wonderful women, creators, peace-makers and mothers.

I hope you're having a beautiful weekend.

xo

12 comments:

Kristi said...

good. xo.

LashyLashla said...

I am glad you made this decision :D it was too late for me to comment on your previous post by the time i read it but I do think you have done the right thing.

Catherine Lowe said...

Oh whops, I commented, I am behind the ball this evening! lol

Gill@OurParklife said...

so pleased to hear you made the right decision for you....I went to a similar event at a football game with my partners work when I was 5 months pregnant with my first son....and the whole time I couldn't wait to get home to bed, so although that is not really the point of your post, I think you did the best thing for both of you...

Yes, I agree that the support women can show each other to those they have never met is hugely powerful!

and flowers pick themselves said...

my favorite thing about blogging is definitely the community of people i've meant. i'm constantly amazed by the kindness + genuineness. glad you feel the same way :)

xo Alison

RosieGirlDreams.com said...

I couldn't agree more. I started blogging earlier this year and am truly loving getting know a community of online thinkers and writers.
P.S. Glad you were able to tease out all the details of your trip and come up with the best scenario for all involved. It's so important to be able to hear and listen to that little voice of reason...which is oftentimes not so little.

Carolyne said...

Thanks for your recent visit to my little blog......

Yours is delightful and full of wonderful information I shall pass on to my dear daughters-by-love!

You're a good Mama.
{{hugs}} ~Carolyne

Christina said...

So glad you were able to make a choice you were comfortable with. The comments are helpful for us next time too.
:)

cityhippyfarmgirl said...

I didn't comment initially, but am really really glad that you came to a conclusion that you were happy with. I have been in exactly the same boat, and its really hard making those first leaving your child with someone else steps...

willywagtail said...

Glad you came to this decision. We never waste thoughts on our children. Cherrie
PS I would never do anything for footy either but that is probably a bad attitude on my part. lol

Vic said...

I'm glad you made a decision that you were comfortable with for you and North. I think having a few practice goes is a great idea for another time further down the track, when it is right for all of you! Vic xx

LJ said...

I am really happy you made the decision that you feel comfortable with. Good on you. xx

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