Saturday, April 30, 2011

to you

Brad has been away all week including today. It wasn't the longest he has ever been away, but it sure felt like it. It bucketed with rain all week and although I tried to slow down, let go of messes and allow myself to serve baked beans on toast one night for dinner, I have just found the last 5 days absolutely gruelling.

Maybe it's the fact that I haven't slept for more than 4 hours straight in 8 months.

Maybe it's the fact that I haven't slept for more than 6 hours straight in 2 years and 8 months.

Maybe it's the fact that I have a two-year-old who insists on taking his shoes and socks off everytime we arrive at the park and everytime we get in the car. But forgets to take his mudcovered boots off as he clambers across the hall carpet.

Maybe it's the fact that I have an 8-month-old who thinks she can stand by herself, takes a step and then topples over and bashes her head.

Maybe it's the fact that I have an 8-month-old who thinks toilet paper is absolutely delicious, and a 2-year-old who thinks that feeding the 8 -month-old toilet paper is absolutely hilarious.

Maybe it's the fact that when I served spaghetti last night, both children decided (while I ducked into the bathroom) that spaghetti is really fun to throw and makes excellent fingerpaint for the floors, walls and every piece of furniture in the kitchen.

Maybe it's the fact that the 2-year-old took said spaghetti out of the fridge this morning while I was still in bed and placed it on the bedside table unbeknownst to me. Then the 8-month-old got hold of said spaghetti (again, unbeknownst to me) and smeared it all over my white pillowcases, sheets and d00na.
(Brightside: this was all on hubby's side of the bed, which he will discover later on tonight).

Luckily, these little tomato-sauce-fingered rugrats also have their angelic moments. Moments like these when they are full or pure joy and they fill me with light and love:


And so, relieved to have a little help tomorrow, (I've declared a strike from all household duties, while insisting that the house will be returned to the exact state it is in this evening at the same time tomorrow- good luck Mister!) I will take a big breath tonight, enjoy an ice cold gin and tonic with extra lime, and raise a toast to all of the Mothers out there with smirks on their faces who know exactly what I am ranting about.

To Mothers. Perhaps your husband doesn't quite get it, as much as he tries, but please believe me when I say: I truly and honestly appreciate the number of times you have been on your hands and knees wiping the kitchen floor this week!!

xo m.

21 comments:

Catherine said...

It sounds like you've had really rough week with your two busy little people keeping you on your toes. Enjoy that drink tonight and some time to yourself tomorrow when Brad comes home. Thinking of you. xo

Cass said...

Totally, totally understand what you're talking/ranting about.
Enjoy your gin, and your rest. :)

Meg said...

Am so with you! When they're a little older you can feed them their spaghetti in the bath!! Mine think it's such a fun treat.

Rhiannon said...

Oh, what a week for you! Probably not that much different to most weeks, but so much more noticable without you other half there!
Enjoy your rest tonight, and I hope you manage a few hours sleep in a row.
Rhi xx

One pair of Hands said...

Ah yes, I remember it well. They seem to be one step ahead of you all the way and they're so darned innovative. Hang in there; they do become civilised after a while, though at the time it seems as though it will never happen. Having the 'other half' back home will be lovely for you.

emm said...

I hear ya. We seem to be having weeks like that all the time lately. It's all so much harder when you are so sleep deprived. I remember well. I actually don't know how I got through most of it, but I did, and you will too. I hope you get a wee break soon. Even if it's just 10 minutes. Us mums really are amazing. Xxx lotsa love

thejadeleaf said...

Oh yes. I'm smirking...

Kate said...

I hear ya! Its been one hellava week here too.
I hope you sleep well and that tomorrow is soooooo much easier and cleaner.

NW Homesteader said...

I'm sorry! I can totally relate! I have an almost 3 year old that thinks she is 'helping' with the 3 month old and torments the 15 month old! And a Daddy that works late swing so he sleeps all day and works all night! Go for Girls night out on Cinco de mayo! (it's a holiday right?) Hope you get your day off!

Joanne said...

I'm not smirking but I am laughing...because if we didn't laugh we'd CRY!?! And although in the heat of the moment it is all so bloody hard and frustrating, isn't it wonderful that our children are innovative, imaginative, creative and prepared to take on a challenge (even if it's with us!). And indeed here is to a well-deserved Gin and Tonic with YES extra fresh lime! And a Sunday off household chores. You sit back and enjoy that one...you've definitely earned it!

Ooty said...

xo

Jgee said...

Sounds like you've had a manic week, power to you for surviving it. When my husband is away (and I only have one child) my respect for sole parents sky rockets. As you say, beautiful smiles and chirpy giggles make all the spaghetti smeared furniture and doona stains, dissipate. Enjoy your G n T x

Shannon said...

(smirking) my wee girl pooed on the (carpeted) floor yesterday morning ~ right alongside her dad's side of the bed. heheh

dailydialect said...

You have had a really hard week! If it helps, I haven't slept either more than 5 hours at a time for four years. Now that it has expanded to the 5 hours, I feel much better... I remember when my husband had to go out of town for 6 weeks, I think if anyone had realized how I was doing, they would have put me in a mental hospital! It sounds like you are beautifully relaxed about it, especially in retrospect. There is nothing like unexpected messes that you never would have thought of in a million years to make you exasperated. Soon, help will come!

Ola said...

I so hear you. I have just written a post which is sort of on this wave length. I hope you have managed to get some time out.

Elk and Ina, Eco Threads said...

I can totally relate! my partner has been away for the past few days as well. I'm just so glad the rain has stopped, I've been dressing the kids in some shocking bottom of the barrel outfits, as we don't use a dryer.
Great blog!
I'll look forward to reading more.
x

rianz said...

With 3 kids (age 6, 4 and 8 months) and a husband who is often away (most recently from 4-26 April) I hear you LOUD AND CLEAR!!!! Good on you for removing yourself and taking some time out to recharge. Now... this is entirely selfish of me.... but I am slightly relieved to know that you have limits too.... your blog is always so positive and consistent that I couldn't help but wonder sometimes if you were a saint....(or a figment of my imagination)! Hope you can forgive me, as I applaud your outburst and cheer on your gin swilling! xx

deux chiens et un garcon said...

chin chin to you with the clunk of the g and t. Mama's are the hardest working people I know.
xo jill

Anonymous said...

I completely feel your frustration! My husband used to go away for work a lot, and was away at least 1 week out of 3, leaving me with just one little one. As he wasn't happy in his job anyway, I eventually insisted that he at least look for something else. Within 3 months he had his dream job. He has been away 4 nights in 18 months and his hours are incredibly flexible. He works 7.5 hour days - rarely more than that. Yes, he took a big pay cut to do this, but it was so well worth it in the end.

Anyway, what I really wanted to say was that I struggled with one, so I don't know how you're doing it with two children!

Kudos to you, you're doing a fabulous job!

Kristi said...

oh smile smile smile.

messyfish said...

Reminds me of when little messyfish was 9 mths trying to stand. I had 700 cupcakes per week to bake, and regretted encouraging my husband to go snowboarding in Kashmir for a month only 2 days after he left! This too shall pass... Enjoy your extra help tomorrow!

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