Monday, April 16, 2012

a fresh start...

I arrived home Saturday evening just in time for some enormous hugs and kisses and a few bedtime stories. The first 3 nights away went quickly but by Friday evening I was aching to get home.

The (Steiner Waldorf Education) Residential Course was soul shaping. I met kindred spirit, ate beautiful wholesome food and gained insight into Anthroposophy and the Life Phases according to Steiner as well as experienced Eurythmy and Clay Modelling classes. I had four days to revisit a part of myself I haven't been in touch with for many years. I have never been a religious person, but my personal spirituality and moral beliefs have always been extremely important to me. This part of myself was nourished as the week unfolded.

There is so much more to learn (I am only 4 months into a 2 year course) but already I feel I want to make a subtle shift in the way we have been parenting.

Here are a few small changes I am trying to consciously make on a day to day basis:

Less words, more actions.

Not asking either of my children to apologise when they've wronged another, but instead to model apologies so that eventually the apologies come from within themselves and not just as a formula that equals self-gratifying praise.

More breathing, taking things slowly, less pressure on myself to keep the house in tip top shape and more pressure to connect, remain in the moment and stay present with my children.

More singing, rhyming, storytelling and pictures with words.

More awareness of doing things with intention and reverence- even simple things like baking, sweeping or hanging the laundry.

More awareness of what to expect and not to expect of certain age groups- remembering my children's developmental limits and not asking too much (or too little) of them.

Replacing the word 'Don't with "We..." i.e.. "Don't hit!" with "We use gentle hands with our sister".

More awareness of falling into the trap of rewards and punishments. And an awareness of the negative impact this has on a child.

Some of these are changes we have already been attempting and others are newer. I know everyday is different, I am only human and I will never parent perfectly. But these are the goals I have set for myself at the moment. 

This past week has been such an amazing journey but I am glad to be back at home with a renewed sense of self. I feel refreshed and inspired to keep striving for the the values I am trying to embody each day.


At Number 32 said...

better mum, better win I'd say :)

Rachel said...

I'm glad to have read through your list of "to do's" with children. Many of mine are the same. I also love the sculpture progressions!

Sarah said...

Sounds like a wonderful learning experience.

Accidental Lentil... said...

oh i love it all.

Anonymous said...

You sound like a person who is being true to herself. You are very inspirational.

tea with lucy said...

This post really speaks to me.

The more I'm exposed to steiner philosophy, the more i love it.

Every time i visit our local steiner school, it fills me up and nourishes me. Lucky i'm there all the time!!

rachel xo

Stacey said...

All the changes on your list are on our list. I've been doing a lot of reading of late on many of these. In particular Unconditonal Parenting by Alfie Kohn. I love that you've been able to reconnect with a part of yourself. Thank you for sharing.

MamaNatuurlijk said...

Great to hear you had such a inspirational weekend. Love to read that you too are inspired by Alfie Kohn.

Love MamaNatuurlijk

Mrs B said...

This post really resonated with me. We've been struggling with our 5 yo but re-reading gentle parenting and changing our behaviour has made a huge difference. You forget in the day to day that they are just so living in their bodies, that they are not "defiant".

More breathing and looking at my response to his behaviour has made our lives so much better too.

Steiner DE 2012 said...

Great blog Meagan

thejadeleaf said...

Less words, more actions. Love it. That is going up my my fridge asap x

Oh. And welcome back.

jobungalow said...

Thankyou for sharing. You are an inspiration to me as a parent xx

kristi said...

i hope you continue to share this journey with us...such great wisdom.

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