Monday, May 6, 2013

on staying at home... and not feeling guilty about it


As we march to the rhythm of the school term and our weeks fill with activities and appointments I have become more conscious of making the effort to stay at home as much as we can. Staying home, for me, means enjoying the quiet and simplicity of our house and backyard and the company of no one but each other for the entire day.

Staying home all day long can evoke mother guilt (or craziness) in us if we're not accustomed to it. As North grows older I find it more and more challenging to see these days as enriching as opposed to stifling. We live in a time where busy-ness is synonymous with productivity and growth while often domestic duties are seen as burdens and simple living as unnecessarily hard work. But for the young child, staying at home is more nourishing for their bodies, minds and souls than any outing you could take them on.

Staying at home allows me the space and freedom to plan, prepare and cook three wholesome meals, hang the mountains of laundry, tend to our growing garden, clean neglected corners and above all to be fully present and patient with my children for the entire day. Nothing is rushed or hurried because we have all day to do what needs to be done. Lessons are learned through doing- washing, folding, playing, pouring, digging and scooping.

As I prepare for the arrival of our third angel and the first four weeks (or more) at home doing very little but simply being there for him or her and the other two I remind myself of the blessings found within our walls and that the great big world will still be there in its entirety when we open our doors and return.

9 comments:

A little bit Country said...

I love this post. I love staying home too. With 3 kiddies with different activities (which I do limit) I also make sure we have home days. We have the weekend and always a Thursday where we don't have to be anywhere. We stay in our pj's for a long while, eat a slow often cooked breakfast. We play, clean, tidy, bake, potter and cook lots. I find it fascinating that it is not the norm. My mum often comments that no wonder families have trouble keeping on top of the household chores when we are never home to do them. I think she is onto something there! xo

Happy Whimsical Hearts said...

Lovely, such a special time and way to grow with your children. I adore being home with mine, although I do now work part time as well, but I know where I'd rather be! And best wishes for the arrival of you new babe xx

Caroline said...

I love this post too. I often feel guilty that I'm not "out" doing something with the 4 boys (but we live in an apartment) so they do get bored and a bit stir crazy at times. I tend to agree that many kids are over stimulated - they really do need to learn to be calm and still. I'm very much a homebody and I love just pottering around the house. Hope you are feeling well in this stage of your pregnancy. xx

Anonymous said...

Love this post! I have 8 kids and always my favorite days are the ones spent at home with no stress of running around being here and there. It is so lost in our over scheduled world today ;( Kids need time to be kids!
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melania said...

It's so refreshing for me to find someone who feels the same way. I don't have children yet but I've cared for them quite a bit. When my nephew comes to stay, no matter what the options are he is always choosing to stay home. It's been fascinating and beautiful to spend that time with him at home even though there are a gazillion child-related activities within our reach.

LaurenBurke BenHissink said...

I do love staying home and the busier I get the more I love it! My boy even likes to say "home" when he's had enough!
How much longer until there is 3? Best of luck!!!
L
x

Meagan said...

Lauren- around 5 or 6 weeks to go... the nerves are starting to kick in!! xx m.

Bekka Joy said...

SUch a beautiful post. And this rings so true with me. I try to have several home days in each week to ensure that myself and my daughters are fed, recharged and enjoy just being together. It's easy for the weeks to fill up with activities and social commitments but there is nothing better than just enjoying each other in the comfort of home.
Blessings to you as you await the arrival of your precious new babe! xx

Kimberly said...

I used to have a few at home days each week. Now, the rarity is to have a day away! (We moved from a large city to a tiny town.)

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