Monday, May 6, 2013
on staying at home... and not feeling guilty about it
As we march to the rhythm of the school term and our weeks fill with activities and appointments I have become more conscious of making the effort to stay at home as much as we can. Staying home, for me, means enjoying the quiet and simplicity of our house and backyard and the company of no one but each other for the entire day.
Staying home all day long can evoke mother guilt (or craziness) in us if we're not accustomed to it. As North grows older I find it more and more challenging to see these days as enriching as opposed to stifling. We live in a time where busy-ness is synonymous with productivity and growth while often domestic duties are seen as burdens and simple living as unnecessarily hard work. But for the young child, staying at home is more nourishing for their bodies, minds and souls than any outing you could take them on.
Staying at home allows me the space and freedom to plan, prepare and cook three wholesome meals, hang the mountains of laundry, tend to our growing garden, clean neglected corners and above all to be fully present and patient with my children for the entire day. Nothing is rushed or hurried because we have all day to do what needs to be done. Lessons are learned through doing- washing, folding, playing, pouring, digging and scooping.
As I prepare for the arrival of our third angel and the first four weeks (or more) at home doing very little but simply being there for him or her and the other two I remind myself of the blessings found within our walls and that the great big world will still be there in its entirety when we open our doors and return.